Saturday 26 July 2014

[www.keralites.net] 7 Keys to a Flawless Conversation

 

 

How to start, continue and end a talk
Colette Carlson

 

The ability to hold a natural conversation is key to success in the professional world. Knowing when to initiate a discussion, keeping it interesting by asking effective questions, sharing your own stories and ending dialogue with kindness is an art.

So, are you a smooth talker? Learn how to create connections in conversations by following these seven steps:

1. Exude confidence. When you're comfortable in your own skin, you make others comfortable. If you take the attitude that you bring something to the table, you will see that attitude reflected in others. Remember: Enthusiasm is infectious.

2. Show up with something to say. Always be on the lookout for material. Although it may sound contrived, I read The Wall Street Journal looking for interesting, timely information that I can share at my next get-together: a party, association meeting or business affair. Think about keeping a file that you can review before your next event.

3. Begin with a question. Besides showing interest in someone, one simple question can start an entire conversation. Asking something a bit unusual sets you apart from the crowd. Rather than, "What do you do?" ask, "How do you enjoy spending your weekends?"

4. Find common ground. The surest way to build rapport is to find something you have in common and build on that interest. Don't shy away from topics that have nothing to do with business. They often create the perfect connection.

5. Focus on others. Putting your energy and interest in another person marks you as a great conversationalist. Englishman Raymond Mortimer once described the art of conversation in the United States as "not tennis, in which you return the other fellow's serve, but gold, in which you go on hitting your own ball." Keep that back and forth volley going with conversation.

6. Be inclusive. Excluding others in the group is a conversation killer. Make eye contact with everyone in the group, not just the person who asked you a direct question.

7. Close a conversation with class. When a conversation naturally lulls, take advantage and say, "It's been a pleasure talking with you. I hope our paths cross again soon." Before leaving, be sure to thank the hosts.

Seeds of SUCCESS
 


 

Junaid Tahir 
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[www.keralites.net] 10 Analogies for a Great Leader

 

By Junaid Tahir
 


 
Leaders of required to posses several supreme personality traits such as competence, commitment,courage, focus, generosity, passion, responsibility, vision, problem solving attitude and self-discipline. Below analogies are given for the leaders for their self audits which constitute for the transformation from 'effectiveness to greatness' as per Stephen R Covey's book "The 8th Habit®":

 
1-     The Great Leader is like the Lion: He does not fear in any kind of tragic circumstances and grabs the 'Lion's share' (market share for his company) and also gives us the protection from other dangers. He faces the difficulties with courage, meets them, treats them and defeats them. 

2-    The Great Leader is like the Foundation of a Building: He penetrates enough in the roots in order to strengthen the foundation of the company. By penetrating means he has strong grip on the policies, procedures, products and services. This helps company grow more and more. 

3-    The Great Leader is like the Rocket: When in action, he focuses on the target with full zeal and zest. He does not get distracted by any other disturbances and challenges in his path. 

4-    The Great Leader is like the Doctor: Who knows the real root cause of the diseases (issues). He isanalytical in his approach. He not only take corrective actions in order to fix the issues but also takes preventive actions in order to overcome the diseases/problems so as to eliminate them permanently. 

5-    The Great Leader is like the Train Engine: He has a clear destination in his mind. He makes sure that all of the passengers (employees) reach their destination. The passengers (employees) belong to so many categories (low/high performing, active/inactive, sick/healthy, poor/rich etc) however he takes all of them along with him towards the target destination and steadily reaches there. He keeps the engine up and running to ensure that target is achieved by all means. 

6-    The Great Leader is like the Professor: He teaches his followers with theoretical, practical, pictorial, verbal, friendly and/or commanding ways of trainings. He is effective in communication and clearly elaborates his requirements/targets so that every single member clearly understands the target and his/her role.

7-    The Great Leader is like the Servant: He facilitates the tasks and paves the way for his clients (team members), eventually the clients focus on their major responsibilities.

8-    The Great Leader is like the Newspaper: He highlights and summarizes the critical happenings so that the readers (followers) are up-to-date about surroundings and adjust their work related strategies accordingly.  

9-    The Great Leader is like the Water: He cleanse the system by removing the dirt, by reducing the impurities. 

10-   The Great Leader is like a Cricket Captain: He organizes the players/resources based on the demand. He performs for his team and not for his personal achievements. For him, team comes first so his intentions from his team and company's perspective are WIN-WIN.
 
What other analogies you have in your mind for Great Leaders?

 

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[www.keralites.net] Marriage: 19 tips for the ladies (1838)

 

The advice below was written more than twenty years before the Civil War began, which read less like tips and more like rules for "proper" etiquette wives should use when dealing with their husbands. It's safe to say that many of these suggestions would not be appreciated today.

 

Counsel for ladies

1.     Let every married woman be persuaded that there are two ways of governing a family. The first is by the expression of that which threatens force. The second is, by the power of love, to which even strength will yield.

2.     Over the mind of the husband, a wife should never employ any other power than gentleness.

3.     When a woman accustoms herself to say, "I will," she deserves to lose her empire.

4.     Avoid contradicting your husband. When we smell a rose, we expect to imbibe the sweetness of its odor — so we look for every thing amiable in woman. Whoever is often contradicted, feels insensibly an aversion for the person who contradicts, which gains strength by time.

5.     Employ yourself in household affairs.

6.     Wait till your husband confides to you those of a higher importance, and do not give your advice till he asks it.

7.     Never take upon yourself to be a censor of your husband's morals, to read lectures to him. Let your preaching be a good example.

8.     Practice virtue yourself, to make him in love with it.

9.     Command his attention by being always attentive to him. Never exact anything, and you will obtain much.

10.            Appear always flattered by the little he does for you, which will excite him to perform more.

11.            Men as well as women, are vain. Never wound his vanity, not even in the most trifling instance.

12.            A wife may have more sense than her husband, but she should never seem to know it.

13.            When a man gives wrong counsel, never make him feel that he has done so, but lead him on by degrees to what is rational, with mildness and gentleness.

14.            When he is convinced, leave him all the merit of having found out what is reasonable and just; when a husband is out of temper, behave obligingly to him.

15.            If he is abusive, never retort, and never prevail on him to humble himself; but enter the closet, and pour out thy complaints in pray to God in his behalf. The prayers of the righteous avail much.

16.            Choose carefully your female friends. Have but few, and be backward to follow advice — particularly if inimical to the foregoing instructions.

17.            Cherish neatness without luxury, and pleasure without excess. Dress with taste, and particularly with modesty. "Whose adorning let it not ye that outward adorning, of plaiting hair, and of wearing of gold, or of putting on of apparel."

18.            Vary the fashions of your dress in regard to colors. It gives a change to ideas, and recalls pleasing recollections. Such things appear trifling, but they are of more importance than imagined.

19.            "Likewise ye wives, be in subjection to your own husbands." "Husbands, love your wives, even as Christ also loved the Church and gave himself for it." "Submit yourselves one to another in the fear of God."


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